A Request for Help
And Lots of Gratitude
I want to start by saying thank you.
Over 350 of you subscribe to A Loverâs Quarrel, and while that pales in comparison to the audiences of some writers, itâs wildly flattering to me to know that there are a few hundred people out there who care enough about what I write to get it in their inboxes every week. And nearly 10% of you who subscribe to this Substack are paid subscribersâsome monthly, some yearly, and some using the âFoundingâ category to offer the highest level of support, $150 a year, or more if the person chooses. Iâm incredibly gratefulâincredibly gratefulâto those who have supported this work and continue to do so. The most recent paid subscriber signed up just yesterdayâa dear colleagueâand Iâm so thankful that she and so many others of you are showing up for me in this way.
Iâm convinced that most writing is done for oneâs self. At least, thatâs true for me. I tend to write about the things that are occupying my mind or ramping up my anxieties, and I trust that the results will be interesting to at least a few others. For this Substack, that has mostly meant reflections on lectionary texts, and especially the way lectionary texts help me think about our own place and time and my fraught place in the world. On Monday, for example, I posted some reflections on Ephesians 2 and the tensions about belonging found in that text. But for me, Ephesians was also a way to work through my own unease about belonging in my own place and timeâwhat it means to be an American, of a particular race and gender, in an election year, in a time of rising political violence and sharpening and competing nationalist rhetorics. Itâs therapeutic for me to sit down and think through things every week (and sometimes more often than that), and I hope my thoughts can be useful for you, too.
In this post, I would like to ask you for help. As some of you know, my full-time job is as a professor at a theological school. That work is incredibly rewarding and meaningful to me, and I hope to keep doing it the rest of my professional life. And alongside that academic work, I have served as a minister in a congregation, part-time, which has been a wonderful complement to academia. But as many of you know, congregations are struggling these days, and recently my church cut my hours and my pay by a third. This wasnât a surprise; the budget had been getting tighter for a long time. But it is quite a blow, coming at a time of rising prices and some substantial medical bills. Things are tough financially, and they are probably going to get tougher.
I started this Substack as an outlet for my writing, but also as a way to anticipate the moment that is now here, when I might need an alternative way of making money. And so Iâm asking for your support. For those who already have paid subscriptions, I want to reiterate my thanks. For those who are on a free subscription, I respectfully ask you to consider becoming a paid subscriber. I know thatâs not possible for everyone (it wouldnât be possible for me right now), but if itâs something in your power, and you feel inclined, I could use your support. You can click this button to add or change a subscription.
One of my commitments for A Loverâs Quarrel is to keep all content available to both free and paid subscribers alike. Nothing will be behind a paywall; youâll be able to access everything, no matter what. But there are some benefits to being a paid subscriber. Aside from my deep gratitude, youâll also receive the ability to give me a writing assignment once per yearâto pose a question or a prompt and have me respond with a post on this Substack. Only a couple of paid subscribers have taken advantage of that so far, but it has been fun to write the responses! And youâll also get a custom consultation, by email or Zoom, about a sermon or lesson or question thatâs giving you trouble. Iâll help you think through it, be a sounding board, and do my best to help draw out the wisdom you already have.
Iâll close by reiterating how thankful I am for all of you who subscribe, free or paid, and all those who read without subscribing. If you have the will and the means to support this Substack financially, I would appreciate that. And if you donât, thatâs perfectly ok tooâIâm glad youâre here. Iâm already thinking about Mondayâs post, imagining what I might write and what might be helpful for all of you to read. Iâll see you all right here on Monday!

These are times that try menâs/womenâs souls. On every. single. level.
I am sure this was a difficult post to write. Thank you for keeping us in the loop.
You are appreciated.